About growing, this is the best answer I’ve ever heard

About growing, this is the best I’ve ever heard of to help answer Heart (micro letter: luyuexinli) have co-senior author of the paper Shu Qing Qing heart of the world’s two kinds of people: one is an adult, one is a child.  Happy to do the adults who enjoy powerful, like the show a sense of power; happy to do children who like to relax, always wanted to play carefree.The real mature person, not only do adults, and children do.  Recall: When you’re busy doing adult time, forget that they are children, continue to move forward, never stop, until the body to resist: I was sick, I had to stop the.  When you’re busy doing child, forget that they are an adult, always eager to be taken care of, protected, like a vine plant, forever dependent on others.  If you are an adult child can do, then you can not relax and enjoy the comfort, be happy to take care of fragile; only do if you’re a child of an adult, you will be a lack of confidence, not powerful, life hiding in snail shells , not daring to dare to break the red.  Split it?Split!Because very often, and we have a very strange inner child, do not see there is no acceptance, no healing will not grow.  Heart Club course last week, Lu Yue teacher about the growth path of his inner child: Why do we ignore the inner child, how can we heal the inner child?  What is the inner child?  Why do we often feel inexplicable feelings, fishes continuously, not named?That is because our inner child is touched, it is our nature, I was really, is our original sense of trust.  In many cases, you can not see the TA, or even unaware of the presence of TA because TA hidden in the depths of your heart, wrapped in layers, it is the weakest part of the soft.  Some friends say the heart, since not see, then my inner child in the end is what it?  Lu Yue said the teacher, in fact, is our inner child actually looked like when we came into this world naked, and candor in this world, when we are hungry, eat, cold to cry, so I will not want to cry mother will not be happy, so I can eat my father will not find it too.  In simple terms is that inner child that we have not developed a self-defense mechanism.The defense mechanisms that we meet the challenges of the world, to protect their shell.  Everyone left with a variety of skills needed to cope with the challenges of the world.If you do not protect the defense mechanisms, we are a snail without a shell, soft, vulnerable.  Why would hurt inner child?  In many cases, we do not know the inner child has been injured, because then we are too young, and this process is occurring gradually.  When parents are helpless in front of you fight, you fight a father, a mother threatened you cry I do not want you, when you’re being bullied junior partner, then you also too soft, do not know how to deal with anger of the world, would you really believe my mother is to abandon you, you will feel them because they are so loud quarrel.  Dear children, I want to tell you, it really is not your fault, you let a small to withstand so much pain, it was hard for you.  I heard this, and some heart Friends of tears, then himself was not easy: if then someone can hold on to me when I was curled up in the corner, when I was afraid to tell me do not be afraid, I am in no help when help me digest this bad feeling tells me it’s not my fault.Perhaps, I would not always cautious, always uneasy fear, always feel that they are useless, no one will really love me.  Parents do not help us, forced to digest itself such a bad mood, where a small child can know how to do, they will all fall into place are bitter to swallow, so naive as to think that as long hold on for a while, the next sec will be better.  Lu teacher talked about here, told us that he later learned to give yourself to create a protective layer, that is, give yourself blowing bubbles.  If a boy without parents taught him how to deal with bullying children, and that he will give Zhaobu in other places, such as learning good, like my other grades were not good, I can better language, do a language are the envy of everyone on little wit, so that I would not be bullied inferiority incompetence little boy, I can deal with all the problems myself, I do not need the help of parents, do not need to love.  I give myself two blew bubbles, a poetic bubble, a bubble numb.  This bubble, many injured children to protect their own defense mechanisms.But we can see, this defense mechanism is fragile and illusory, is not enough flexible.  When defense mechanisms fail?  Lu teacher told us that there will be many challenges in life, so we will continue to blow bubbles themselves, and constantly develop new defense mechanisms, until we live to be thirty or forty years, or earlier.  Probably just graduated from school into the community, you begin to find that I had learned at school can be a good carefree, people recognized defensive mode, whether to use it.  You may thirties, I suddenly felt not want to live my life in enterprises and institutions, to change a job, but your previous skills seem inadequate to deal with the complexity and challenges of the new unit.  That’s when you suddenly entered an unprecedented state of crisis, you will self-doubt, was not lived in vain before himself?You will feel life is a mess, you will doubt yourself, it is not handled properly and interpersonal working relationships?  You like a lot, but with no eggs, the situation is still out of control, the more you do well, the more skeptical, more skeptical, the worse.  You give yourself design dream bubble was pricked ruthless, this time, is your defense mechanism fails, the world can not cope when.  Maybe some heart Friends will say, then I will practice new skills package, the development of new defense mechanisms thing.  Unfortunately, this does not work.The challenges of life no end, you will fall into blowing bubbles – bubble burst – and then blowing bubbles – infinite loop bubble burst in again.You will continue to experience self-doubt to self-healing process, until you no longer able to deal with the biggest challenge yourself.  So, do no saving life?No, you still have a chance, which goes back to the beginning of his book, heal your inner child.  Only healing the inner child, so that the inherent strong enough, you will not need so much protection layer to help you cope with this world, it does not need to peek at the world through colorful bubbles, dare to use the most natural, most of this really face their own world.  Powerful and self-confidence, is distributed from the inside out, rather than pathetic to get Hujiahuwei.And all because of fear avoidance, when we are able to face their own fears, we find the light and found a new life.  Are you ready to put down this fake sense of self yet?Light reading is the fear of not touch, you have to start to try.Please take a deep breath, take courage, plunged into the stream.Finally, we take a look at the feedback group of friends right? – This will be Zhou Xinyue course – all the way out, all in the church you love yourself.This is a challenge and an opportunity, the opportunity to enhance the quality of your life, and the time I really met, in which case you will have the opportunity to exchange a pair of shoes to go live, rather than stay here forever do not belong to your world.  Inner child course, is such a journey, a journey of changing his shoes.Your answer to everything in life, in this course in.  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